Ah, Valentine’s Day, the day of celebrating romantic love. It’s no wonder why February 14th has become a dreaded and deeply difficult day for single adults around the world. For all the single parents spending this Valentine’s Day without a significant other this year, you might be facing feelings of depression, guilt, bitterness or resentment. One way that single parents can reduce the feelings of despair is by reframing the holiday. Instead of just celebrating romantic love, find comfort, joy and gratitude by celebrating all the other types of love in your life.
Celebrate your children
As a single parent on Valentine’s Day this year, you can focus on celebrating your love for your children. Take your little one(s) on a date to dinner or to a movie. Spend some time doing an activity that you both enjoy. Create handmade cards for each other. Make an adorable heart-shaped dinner that will bring a smile to your faces (and your tummies). As Aha! Parenting suggests, Valentine’s Day can be the perfect opportunity to deepen your precious connection with your children.
Celebrate your friendships
If your child is spending time somewhere else this Valentine’s Day, use February 14th as a celebration of your love for your friends. Celebrate the friends who have helped you through your breakups. Celebrate the friends who have helped you through the difficult days as a single parent. Chances are, you have at least one friend, colleague or acquaintance who is also spending Valentine’s Day alone. Why not spend the day together? And even if all your close friends are coupled in healthy relationships this Valentine’s Day, you might have at least one or two friends who would be willing to take time out of their day to meet up with you. It never hurts to ask.
We are often so focused on simply surviving day to day life that we forget all about self care. On Valentine’s Day, the holiday of celebrating love, we can remember our love for ourselves and take small steps throughout the day to honor our commitment to self care. For example, if you’ve recently beaten an addiction, celebrate that triumph in self care by treating yourself to a massage. Or, if you’ve been working hard recently building your business or advancing your career, allow yourself a much-needed break in the name of Valentine’s Day and curl up with a good book followed by a refreshing nap. There are many ways to celebrate yourself on Valentine’s Day. If you’re spending the day alone, find an activity that you enjoy and make it a priority.
Celebrate your family
In addition to celebrating love with your children and friends, you could also celebrate the love you share with your relatives. For some people, that might mean getting together with siblings and parents. For others, it might mean visiting an elderly relative who would otherwise spend the holiday alone. Bring your children along with you and enjoy the time catching up with your extended family. Whatever the case may be, find heart-warming ways to connect with beloved relatives this Valentine’s Day.
Spending Valentine’s Day single doesn’t have to be an excuse to mope around at home, feeling sorry for yourself. Put away the ice cream, wipe the tears, and get clever about how to spend your holiday celebrating all types of love. Own the day by loving yourself, loving your kids, and showing the world what an awesome parent you are - regardless of whether or not you’re in a relationship.