If you’ve been in a relationship with an abusive partner, you might suffer from some of the following:
1. Re-experiencing aggressive acts and comments made by the Narcissist. Can include bad dreams and nightmares.
2. Hypersensitivity – trouble sleeping, being frightened easily, difficulty with concentrating, and outbursts of anger.
3. Anxiety – being in constant fight-or-flight mode. This in turn leads to physical and emotional fatigue, which later manifest as illness and disease in the body.
4. Being triggered by stimuli in the environment which recalls traumatic memories.
5. Repetition Compulsion – Reenacting traumatic events in an attempt to gain closure – this is why we often re-abuse ourselves after our abuser has left. This might include stalking him or her online in order to see them with a new partner, negative self-talk, or entering into another abusive relationship. In other words, trying to complete what wasn’t previously completed. However, this only enhances PTSD symptoms because it doesn’t heal the trauma.
Many of these things are signs of PSTD or C-PSTD. Left untreated, PTSD and C-PTSD lead to other symptoms and conditions which affect all areas of life:
Some of these include:
1. Inability to handle stress
2. Eating disorders
3. Drug and alcohol addictions
4. Damaged relationships with others
5. A negative outlook on life
7. Specific anxiety disorders such as panic attacks and phobias. For example, victims who were stalked often develop agoraphobia.
8. Crippled Self-Esteem
9. Loss of career and loss of desire to be productive
10. Victims of abuse have higher incidents of certain types of illness (including fibromyalgia and cancer)
If you are experiencing any of these things, we recommend you consult with a professional. The sooner you begin addressing these concerns the sooner you will have the future you dream of within your reach!
A comprehensive list of clinical providers (in Los Alamos) can be found here: http://losalamosmentalhealth.org/clinic-list/