An abuser who uses emotional abuse, will highlight issues in ways that cause the other person to question their value or worth. While this can be done by name calling, yelling, or publicly berating there are many other forms of emotional abuse.
A few forms of neglect:
1. Refusing to acknowledge the basic needs of another person,
2. Silent treatment,
3. Tracking use of resources intensively or using them as a form of punishment,
4. Withholding affection
5. "Forgetting" previous agreements or discussions
Here are a few examples of manipulation (also considered emotional abuse)
1. Sharing intimate secrets in public
2. Refusing to acknowledge responsibility
5. Giving gifts to get something later
6. Being emotionally unpredictable
7. Using half-truths to shift focus of discussion
8. Apologizing without changing behavior
9. Justifying a poor reaction based on a difficult experience
10. Limiting exposure to other people
Emotions are powerful tools. If an abuser can get a victim to question the validity of their own emotions they become able to control much about the things their victim believes and hears even from other people. Many abusers that use emotional abuse are also called 'crazy makers' because it is difficult to undo the damage of emotional abuse.
Victims of emotional abuse often need others to validate the way they feel because they have learned to question their own feelings at a core level.