1. An abuser will do or say almost anything they can to leave you feeling guilty most of the time. Sometimes it happens so often that it becomes difficult to even pinpoint exactly what we are feeling so guilty about.
2. If your partner or friends jokes are usually at your expense, this is a very common form of emotional abuse. It is especially important to take note if you've asked them to stop and they begin to tease you for asking them to quit.
3. Abusers will usually refuse to accept responsibility for problems or upsets. They typically have a long list of why they are not to blame, but usually can't admit when they are at fault even when the errors or small or others know the truth.
4.The most obvious form of emotional abuse is when trust is used to punish you. Often this looks like sharing personal information without your permission, talking about your concerns with others or bringing up embarrassing moments at inopportune times.
5. When your friend or partner treats you like the child in the relationship rather than an equal participant, this is a form of emotional abuse. Treating you like a child is designed to keep you dependent and coming back to the abuser for help or guidance.
6. We often talk about the difficult aspects of emotional abuse, but occasionally an abuser will behave like the best lover in the world. The problem is that these kind acts are going to be brought up again when they want something from you later. If your partner pays for dinner and they bring it up if you refuse sex later; this is the kind of thing that happens when a partner is using kindness as an abusive form of manipulation.
7. The worst is when you've broken up, but your ex-partner behaves like your still together. This sometimes looks like jealousy or stalking. If you notice this type of behavior, it is important to talk to others about what is happening so they can help keep you safer.