Some common forms of psychological manipulation include:
1. Allowing you to speak first, and responding by only identifying areas of weakness in your argument or concerns.
2. Overwhelming someone with procedures, facts or statistics.
3. Giving little to no time to make a decision.
4. Negative humor or shocking statements.
5. Silent Treatment
6. Guilt-baiting (holding another responsible for manipulators happiness)
7. Exaggerated or imagined personal issues.
8. Leaving out pieces of information
9. Pretend ignorance
Usually manipulation is a type of trick designed to coerce others into a position of disadvantage. Even infants use manipulation to get their physical needs met, by crying when they are hungry or need to be changed. This is something all humans use often, so not everyone is aware that they are using manipulation in the moment that it is occurring. Usually manipulation is not even abusive, but it can easily become a tool that abusers to use when developing a pattern of control within a relationship.
When manipulation does become a problem it can be very difficult to identify exactly when there is an imbalance of power. For this reason, it is important to share your concerns with a trained professional who can help you identify if the manipulation that you are concerned about has become an abusive pattern in your relationship. These professionals can also help identify ways to shift the manipulation so it isn't damaging for you even when it has crossed the line into abusive behavior.