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12 years ago when I was leaving my own abusive marriage a close friend made me promise her that I would NEVER drink alone. I'd not had anything close to a drinking problem, so her comment didn't make much sense to me at the time. However, when court didn't go as planned or I found myself frustrated at trying to make my paycheck cover all the basic expenses or hurt by the betrayal of a friend that I trusted, the idea of relaxing with a drink or two honestly was an attractive option. Since I'd promised my friend that I would not drink alone, if I decided to have a drink or two to relax I'd need to call a friend and ask them to either come hang out with me or go to the bar to have a drink.
This promise forced me to admit when I was having a difficult time with some of the things happening in my life and created a pause in the moment to think about how I was escaping the emotional pain. The other side effect of keeping this promise is that I had accountability with my friends even when things changed because my friends would notice quickly if I began calling them constantly to go have a few drinks.
This desire to get away with a few drinks wasn't a once or twice kind of experience, it literally lasted for many years. When my children began acting like unruly teens or when my own son began displaying abusive behavior that desire to run away with a drink or two would ring in my thoughts. To this day I'm grateful for my friends advice, because it did help me avoid the trap of substance abuse to escape the difficult challenge of coping with living as a single parent after surviving domestic violence.
The trouble with escaping through substances is that it is a pattern of response that begins harmlessly, it starts with a drink or two after a difficult day that slowly becomes a 6-pack and before long drowning sorrows in a few drinks is a nightly occurrence that lasts for awhile longer than intended. If this pattern continues, it can easily become a full blown addiction. Not because a terrible person had a few drinks, but because the problem creeps up on you. like most out of control things in our lives the problem didn't show up as something you can't handle it started out as something under control but, one day you wake up and realize it has become something you can't control.
It wasn't that I couldn't drink, I just had a personal guideline I needed to follow.... do it WITH someone else.
If you are struggling, or are worried your loved one might be consider reaching out. Even if you are not ready to take big steps, today is a great day to take a small one. Start with looking at the resources available to help you when the day comes that you ARE ready.
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